Exceptions To The Rule
Direct Answers - Column for the week of March 29, 2004
Yesterday I turned 48, and she just turned 21. Uh-oh, I can hear the gears turning in your heads already.
She will graduate from university in England in June with a degree in psychology, and we have discussed her coming to live here with me in the States. So far she's come once, for a week, against her parents' better judgment. That's another story. I've been to see her twice, a week each time.
We are unbelievably content when we are together. It's as if we've been together all along. When I look at her, I don't see "21," I see a woman I am completely crazy about. When she holds my hand, my heart races.
At first I'm sure it was the novelty of the situation. She was enthralled with the spoilings and attention of an older man,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots, although she's never asked me for anything. I was completely enraptured with the concept that a woman such as she would be interested in me, but it has gone past that for both of us.
Yes, it's a physical thing. The lovemaking is the most passionate I've ever experienced, but it's also become a thing of the heart. She has even mentioned (oh no!) marriage. And thus my question. Am I wrong for not being able to see this as permanent? With a 27 year age difference, how long could it realistically last?
For medical reasons, I can never give her children of her own, which is a very sore point with her parents. And for at least the next few years, she will have to deal with the social pressures of being with a man twice her age, which can be quite cruel. Acceptance on my end is not a problem. My close friends have met and like her, and she is emotionally beyond her years.
I've considered leaving things as they are. I think deep down I fear keeping her as my own will cheat her out of the best part of her youth. I am open to your comments and suggestions. I know that in the end, I (or we actually) will undoubtedly follow our hearts.
Arthur
Arthur, a short distance from our house is a roadway with a curve. It's a very mild curve. The road jogs a few feet to the left and then jogs a few feet back to the right,2 It s not your money. It's such a gentle curve it's hard to imagine it could ever be a problem. That's what the parents of the 20-year-old college student who died there must be thinking.
The accident happened at 11 o'clock in the morning, no drinking or excessive speed involved. Their son just missed the curve and hit a tree.
We cannot live our lives based on actuarial tables. Those tables describe the behavior of great masses of people, but they are a poor guide for individuals. Nonetheless, there are serious issues for the two of you to consider. Roll them around, look at them, turn them over. Love may lead you in either direction.
She is on the cusp of adulthood. You are more than a generation apart, and age difference will be a factor for her the entire time you are together. If having children with her husband is an imperative, this relationship can't succeed,Then it has to start all over again tomorrow. If her parents' approval is an absolute requirement, that is another barrier.
Give yourself enough time to see if the novelty wears off. You have been with each other only a short period,Feel yourself pick up your Astral body in the same manner you would your physical body. See if the love grows and builds and if issues are resolved.
Most people who marry are close in age, and half of American marriages end in divorce. Age does not make or break a relationship. Love makes or breaks a relationship.
Actuarially speaking, the odds are against you, but actuarial tables are not a basis for living a life.
Wayne & Tamara
Friday, November 30, 2012
Wednesday, November 28, 2012
our withdrawal and our resistance.
What Does it Mean to “Self Improve,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots?”
Self Improvement has become mainstream. In the last few years, since I have been writing articles and submitting them to article sites, I've noticed that the category of "Self Improvement" has been showing up lately when it was never there before. To me, this is very good news.
But what does it really mean to "Self Improve?" What are we really improving when we self improve? And what "self" are we improving?
We each have two "selves" – our wounded self and our core Self. Our core Self is our true self, our natural soul self – our essence. Our core Self is our passion, our joy, our gifts and talents, our ability to love, our creativity. We come into this life as our core Self, and when this Self is loved and valued by our parents, we continue to naturally grow our God-given gifts and talents and manifest the fullness of our beings. This Self wants to improve by learning the skills necessary to fully express itself.
But when this Self is not seen and valued in the way we needed, we create an alternative self, a self we hope will have control over getting the love we need and avoiding the pain we can't handle – a self to help us feel safe. This is our false self, our wounded self, our ego self. This self is filled with the false beliefs that we absorbed as we were growing up – beliefs that end up limiting our true, core Self. This self does not needs improving – it needs healing.
The term "self improvement" can sometimes be a bit misleading, because we do not want to improve our wounded self. We do not want to improve on the ways we lie, manipulate,you can read my article on goal setting at, and avoid in our attempts to have control over getting love and avoiding pain. We don't want to improve on our many addictions to substance and processes. We don't want to improve on our anger, our compliance,then you could try the HR of the Employee Assistance Program representative., our withdrawal and our resistance.
We want to heal it.
Healing and improving are not the same thing.
We can certainly self-improve when it comes to skills. We can improve in sports, in art, music, writing, cooking. We can improve our health and wellbeing by improving our diet and exercise program. We can improve in the knowledge we need to be more successful regarding work and money. We might be able to improve our relationships by learning new communication skills. But what if acquiring new knowledge and skills does not improve our health, or our ability to earn money, or our relationships? And what if learning new skills does not bring us more joy and inner peace? It may mean that we need to heal the underlying fears and false beliefs that cause us to be anxious, depressed, stressed, guilt-ridden,9.When listening to a person you make eye contact 70% of the time., shamed, withdrawn, angry, blaming, or sad.
Sometimes Self Improvement just means practicing a skill, and others times it means that we need to participate in a deep healing process. For example, many people try to improve their health by losing weight and exercising. But if their food addictions are covering over unhealed pain, they might not be able to just change their diet. They might need to open to a healing process in order to eventually improve.
If you are really trying to self improve but find yourself stuck and unable to progress, or find that you have no joy or inner peace, you might want to open to the possibility that unhealed pain and beliefs are blocking your progress and causing your pain. It is easy to improve yourself when there is nothing blocking the way. But if you have old false beliefs about your adequacy and worth, these beliefs may be blocking your ability to take loving action in your own behalf. All your efforts to self improve will not bring you the satisfaction you are seeking if you have beliefs that are keeping you limited in fully expressing your true, core Self. If you are stuck, then you need to seek out a healing process, such as the Inner Bonding process we teach, that will move you out of the fears and beliefs that limit you. Healing these fears and limiting beliefs will open the door to improving your life in all ways!
Self Improvement has become mainstream. In the last few years, since I have been writing articles and submitting them to article sites, I've noticed that the category of "Self Improvement" has been showing up lately when it was never there before. To me, this is very good news.
But what does it really mean to "Self Improve?" What are we really improving when we self improve? And what "self" are we improving?
We each have two "selves" – our wounded self and our core Self. Our core Self is our true self, our natural soul self – our essence. Our core Self is our passion, our joy, our gifts and talents, our ability to love, our creativity. We come into this life as our core Self, and when this Self is loved and valued by our parents, we continue to naturally grow our God-given gifts and talents and manifest the fullness of our beings. This Self wants to improve by learning the skills necessary to fully express itself.
But when this Self is not seen and valued in the way we needed, we create an alternative self, a self we hope will have control over getting the love we need and avoiding the pain we can't handle – a self to help us feel safe. This is our false self, our wounded self, our ego self. This self is filled with the false beliefs that we absorbed as we were growing up – beliefs that end up limiting our true, core Self. This self does not needs improving – it needs healing.
The term "self improvement" can sometimes be a bit misleading, because we do not want to improve our wounded self. We do not want to improve on the ways we lie, manipulate,you can read my article on goal setting at, and avoid in our attempts to have control over getting love and avoiding pain. We don't want to improve on our many addictions to substance and processes. We don't want to improve on our anger, our compliance,then you could try the HR of the Employee Assistance Program representative., our withdrawal and our resistance.
We want to heal it.
Healing and improving are not the same thing.
We can certainly self-improve when it comes to skills. We can improve in sports, in art, music, writing, cooking. We can improve our health and wellbeing by improving our diet and exercise program. We can improve in the knowledge we need to be more successful regarding work and money. We might be able to improve our relationships by learning new communication skills. But what if acquiring new knowledge and skills does not improve our health, or our ability to earn money, or our relationships? And what if learning new skills does not bring us more joy and inner peace? It may mean that we need to heal the underlying fears and false beliefs that cause us to be anxious, depressed, stressed, guilt-ridden,9.When listening to a person you make eye contact 70% of the time., shamed, withdrawn, angry, blaming, or sad.
Sometimes Self Improvement just means practicing a skill, and others times it means that we need to participate in a deep healing process. For example, many people try to improve their health by losing weight and exercising. But if their food addictions are covering over unhealed pain, they might not be able to just change their diet. They might need to open to a healing process in order to eventually improve.
If you are really trying to self improve but find yourself stuck and unable to progress, or find that you have no joy or inner peace, you might want to open to the possibility that unhealed pain and beliefs are blocking your progress and causing your pain. It is easy to improve yourself when there is nothing blocking the way. But if you have old false beliefs about your adequacy and worth, these beliefs may be blocking your ability to take loving action in your own behalf. All your efforts to self improve will not bring you the satisfaction you are seeking if you have beliefs that are keeping you limited in fully expressing your true, core Self. If you are stuck, then you need to seek out a healing process, such as the Inner Bonding process we teach, that will move you out of the fears and beliefs that limit you. Healing these fears and limiting beliefs will open the door to improving your life in all ways!
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
Can we all just take a pill and everything is going to be ok.
Please Sir, Another Dam Pill!
Are we becoming a pill pushing country? Yes, I have a mental health disorder and I am proud of the fact,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots,to remain in a loving state and to share that love with those around her., which I never give in, I never give up. What I do not do is the fact that I only think that pills are my only option!
I have a headache, please give me a pill, hey my hair is brown,Addressing 'Normal' Business Functions, please sir another dam pill.. My wife left me; you got it another dam pill. My child failed the third grade, I am sure that he or she needs a pill!
Can we all just take a pill and everything is going to be ok.? My mom had a stroke please give her a God dam pill. What is this world coming to? I mean what does hope the power of positive thinking play in this equation. I mean what ever happened to the power of positive thinking.
What about Bob? He is a freak give him a pill, sue is a lesbian, holly shit give her a pill. MY uncle just died if we give him a pill will he raise from the dead. I mean there is nothing Prozac cannot do for you; a pill will solve all your problems- Not.
Can you see what is happening here? I mean every time we turn around they shove another pill down our throat. A pill can fix anything,what and where would you most want to be, I mean superman had to take a pill for his migraines and if the man of steel needs pills then I sure as hell need pills to!
Now don't get me wrong, I need pills or I would go nuts literally, I need them to keep me in check. Now I must say in my defense the pills do take the edge off and the rest is history. I mean unless you are willing to work at your recovery, you ain't going to get any better.
Now if you want to take pills that are fine just know that there is no magic pill to mask all your problems go away. They take off the edge and the rest is up to you, you gotta put in the time if you are going to do the crime so the next time you take a pill please know that you aren't in wonderland anymore ok Alice.
So before you decide to suck down some pills and think that is going to be alright because you just know that the pill will NOT get you to the promised land, so hey Moses part the red sea and when you are done take a God Dam pill!
Are we becoming a pill pushing country? Yes, I have a mental health disorder and I am proud of the fact,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots,to remain in a loving state and to share that love with those around her., which I never give in, I never give up. What I do not do is the fact that I only think that pills are my only option!
I have a headache, please give me a pill, hey my hair is brown,Addressing 'Normal' Business Functions, please sir another dam pill.. My wife left me; you got it another dam pill. My child failed the third grade, I am sure that he or she needs a pill!
Can we all just take a pill and everything is going to be ok.? My mom had a stroke please give her a God dam pill. What is this world coming to? I mean what does hope the power of positive thinking play in this equation. I mean what ever happened to the power of positive thinking.
What about Bob? He is a freak give him a pill, sue is a lesbian, holly shit give her a pill. MY uncle just died if we give him a pill will he raise from the dead. I mean there is nothing Prozac cannot do for you; a pill will solve all your problems- Not.
Can you see what is happening here? I mean every time we turn around they shove another pill down our throat. A pill can fix anything,what and where would you most want to be, I mean superman had to take a pill for his migraines and if the man of steel needs pills then I sure as hell need pills to!
Now don't get me wrong, I need pills or I would go nuts literally, I need them to keep me in check. Now I must say in my defense the pills do take the edge off and the rest is history. I mean unless you are willing to work at your recovery, you ain't going to get any better.
Now if you want to take pills that are fine just know that there is no magic pill to mask all your problems go away. They take off the edge and the rest is up to you, you gotta put in the time if you are going to do the crime so the next time you take a pill please know that you aren't in wonderland anymore ok Alice.
So before you decide to suck down some pills and think that is going to be alright because you just know that the pill will NOT get you to the promised land, so hey Moses part the red sea and when you are done take a God Dam pill!
Monday, November 26, 2012
Leadership
Leadership: Leaders Must Create,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots, Duplicate And Propagate Other Leaders
Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it. - Dwight Eisenhower
Without fail, a true leader's effectiveness can only be confirmed when they are able to cultivate other leaders from ones team,surround yourself with people.
A truly gifted leader directs ones team down the path of success through a vision; an even better leader puts forth great lessons for his people to benefit from later as they are achieving their goals; while, the best leaders produce other leaders from within, in addition to all of the qualities above mentioned.
The effectiveness of a leader depends on their ability to create other leaders, and a true leader is never selfish. They share their experiences, convey and pass on their knowledge and teach others well. They do all these things without asking for anything in returnbecause they know that what they receive in return are the treasures that are worth their time and the necessary sacrifice.
But alas, there are many leaders who see their people as opponents - that when the team members become better, or evolve, they will become better than, or outdo, the leader themselves. This is a mistaken belief of some leaders and is a big reason why they don't go as far in the area of producing more leaders.
Basically, what should be observed in this scenario is that the team members are cooperators, not competitors. In fact, these people who are potential future leaders, help lighten and carry the load. They efficiently reduce the encumbrances of the present leader. And with such vast and vital responsibilities, a leader tends to divide the duties among his people giving the more difficult ones to those he deeply trusts and thinks will handle them appropriately. So it goeswith prospective future leaders at hand, one is guaranteed that these tasks are being completed according to the team's agenda and benefit structure.
Furthermore, a leader who produces other leaders exponentially multiplies his or her influence, crafting a system that other people follow and believe in wholeheartedly and enthusiastically. Their organization will continue to build, grow and thrive, as there are other devotees who assist him to prosperity.
My friends, if you are a leader,why not, you cannot and should not attempt to do everything by yourself. You need confidants, colleagues and compatriots. If you really want to be a successful leader, you must cultivate other leaders around you. It is imperative that you form and establish a team that has a vision similar to yours, acts and reacts the same way you do and believes that you can rise to the top,she suggests silliness. I am so pleased. I've been a personal fan of silliness my whole life. A true leader always sees the big picture, but needs other leaders to help turn his or her mental picture into reality.
Typical leaders only aspire to have more and more disciples around them. They truly believe that the key to leadership is acquiring more followers that they can order around. Few leaders surround themselves with other leaders that they can ask of and utilize their invaluable assistance. Coincidentally, these leaders are the true and effective ones, the ones that go down in infamy. Here's to leadership!
Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it. - Dwight Eisenhower
Without fail, a true leader's effectiveness can only be confirmed when they are able to cultivate other leaders from ones team,surround yourself with people.
A truly gifted leader directs ones team down the path of success through a vision; an even better leader puts forth great lessons for his people to benefit from later as they are achieving their goals; while, the best leaders produce other leaders from within, in addition to all of the qualities above mentioned.
The effectiveness of a leader depends on their ability to create other leaders, and a true leader is never selfish. They share their experiences, convey and pass on their knowledge and teach others well. They do all these things without asking for anything in returnbecause they know that what they receive in return are the treasures that are worth their time and the necessary sacrifice.
But alas, there are many leaders who see their people as opponents - that when the team members become better, or evolve, they will become better than, or outdo, the leader themselves. This is a mistaken belief of some leaders and is a big reason why they don't go as far in the area of producing more leaders.
Basically, what should be observed in this scenario is that the team members are cooperators, not competitors. In fact, these people who are potential future leaders, help lighten and carry the load. They efficiently reduce the encumbrances of the present leader. And with such vast and vital responsibilities, a leader tends to divide the duties among his people giving the more difficult ones to those he deeply trusts and thinks will handle them appropriately. So it goeswith prospective future leaders at hand, one is guaranteed that these tasks are being completed according to the team's agenda and benefit structure.
Furthermore, a leader who produces other leaders exponentially multiplies his or her influence, crafting a system that other people follow and believe in wholeheartedly and enthusiastically. Their organization will continue to build, grow and thrive, as there are other devotees who assist him to prosperity.
My friends, if you are a leader,why not, you cannot and should not attempt to do everything by yourself. You need confidants, colleagues and compatriots. If you really want to be a successful leader, you must cultivate other leaders around you. It is imperative that you form and establish a team that has a vision similar to yours, acts and reacts the same way you do and believes that you can rise to the top,she suggests silliness. I am so pleased. I've been a personal fan of silliness my whole life. A true leader always sees the big picture, but needs other leaders to help turn his or her mental picture into reality.
Typical leaders only aspire to have more and more disciples around them. They truly believe that the key to leadership is acquiring more followers that they can order around. Few leaders surround themselves with other leaders that they can ask of and utilize their invaluable assistance. Coincidentally, these leaders are the true and effective ones, the ones that go down in infamy. Here's to leadership!
Friday, November 23, 2012
Career Coaching Needs To Stop....When...
Career Coaching Needs To Stop....When,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots...
(Here are some ideas from the other side of the desk, from the coach's point of view, not the coachee!)
1. The person the coach is working with doesn't do the necessary work on him/herself to find a a reasonable job goal.
2. The coachee lies.
3. The coach lies.
4. Once the coaching process has started, the person being coached changes goals several times,New Warrior Adventure Weekends.
5. Payment for services is haphazard.
6. Mutual trust in each other, fails,If you need to relieve stress.
7. Appointments for services are missed without explanation.
8. The coachee looks for other advice frequently, without informing the coach. (Coachees should look for other resources but the coaching process comes first in an open dialogue with the coach.)
9,In this job you are the boss. Personalities begin to clash.
10. Any other conflict, which makes a positive outcome, untenable. All process in the coaching relationship is based on positive feelings and mutual friendly regard. The work is understood to be finding a good job.
11. The coach violates confidentiality.
(Here are some ideas from the other side of the desk, from the coach's point of view, not the coachee!)
1. The person the coach is working with doesn't do the necessary work on him/herself to find a a reasonable job goal.
2. The coachee lies.
3. The coach lies.
4. Once the coaching process has started, the person being coached changes goals several times,New Warrior Adventure Weekends.
5. Payment for services is haphazard.
6. Mutual trust in each other, fails,If you need to relieve stress.
7. Appointments for services are missed without explanation.
8. The coachee looks for other advice frequently, without informing the coach. (Coachees should look for other resources but the coaching process comes first in an open dialogue with the coach.)
9,In this job you are the boss. Personalities begin to clash.
10. Any other conflict, which makes a positive outcome, untenable. All process in the coaching relationship is based on positive feelings and mutual friendly regard. The work is understood to be finding a good job.
11. The coach violates confidentiality.
Thursday, November 22, 2012
Where are you wasting time
There's Always Enough Time!
I thought I'd begin this article by stimulating your mind with a little time trivia contest! Are you ready? Alright then,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots,"professional", here goes..
Question 1 - How many hours a day did Bill Gates have available to him to conceptualise Microsoft and build it into a multi Billionaire dollar empire,It's another way of saying that when we relax?
a) 23 hours
b) 25 hours
c) 24 hours
Question 2 - How many days a week did Hilary Swank have to become an academy award winning actress?
a) 6 days
b) 8 days
c) 7 days
Question 3 - How many weeks a year did Nelson Mandela have available to him to free his country from the tyranny of apartheid?
a) 51 weeks
b) 53 weeks
c) 52 weeks
* please note the answers are at the bottom of the article.
So how did you go?
Now if you answered all the questions correctly - congratulations! You have just demonstrated to yourself that you have the necessary intellect and awareness required to master your own time!
If you answered any of the questions incorrectly - it's ok. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just re-sit the test before continuing the article!
We are all given the same 24 hours a day.
One of the most important things to recognise about time is that each of us has been given the same 24 hours a day to work with. It doesn't matter if your one of the world's great leaders or a street cleaner, your time allocation remains the same.
Great people do great things in life not because they have more hours than the rest of us but because they put their time to good use. Your success in life therefore depends not on how many hours you have available each day but on how you personally choose to use your time. You always have enough time to create an extraordinary life should you choose to.
But I don't have enough time!
Whenever you hear yourself say that you don't have enough time, what you are really saying is that you have 'chosen' to do something else with your time. How you spend your time is your time is entirely your choice. The big question is, 'are you making the choices that will provide you with the maximum amount of health, peace and happiness?'
Where are you wasting time?
If you want to become a master of your time one of the first things you need to do is work out where you are currently wasting time. Are you spending too much time down at the pub or watching TV or doing a job that you hate? If you are then you have to do something about it. Nothing will change unless you do.
Try giving up alcohol for month, selling your TV or volunteering your time to a cause you feel passionate about. You'll soon be amazed at what else is possible for your life!
You can't make time!
It's important to understand that you can't make time, you can't find time and you certainly can't buy time,on the fridge. Time just is as it is.
The issue is never about having enough time, but what you choose to do with your time. There is always enough time to do the things that you want to do. You just have to be to committed to doing them.
* Answers
Question 1 - c) 24 hours
Question 2 - c) 7 days
Question 3 - c) 52 weeks
Copyright Damien Senn 2005. All rights reserved.
I thought I'd begin this article by stimulating your mind with a little time trivia contest! Are you ready? Alright then,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots,"professional", here goes..
Question 1 - How many hours a day did Bill Gates have available to him to conceptualise Microsoft and build it into a multi Billionaire dollar empire,It's another way of saying that when we relax?
a) 23 hours
b) 25 hours
c) 24 hours
Question 2 - How many days a week did Hilary Swank have to become an academy award winning actress?
a) 6 days
b) 8 days
c) 7 days
Question 3 - How many weeks a year did Nelson Mandela have available to him to free his country from the tyranny of apartheid?
a) 51 weeks
b) 53 weeks
c) 52 weeks
* please note the answers are at the bottom of the article.
So how did you go?
Now if you answered all the questions correctly - congratulations! You have just demonstrated to yourself that you have the necessary intellect and awareness required to master your own time!
If you answered any of the questions incorrectly - it's ok. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just re-sit the test before continuing the article!
We are all given the same 24 hours a day.
One of the most important things to recognise about time is that each of us has been given the same 24 hours a day to work with. It doesn't matter if your one of the world's great leaders or a street cleaner, your time allocation remains the same.
Great people do great things in life not because they have more hours than the rest of us but because they put their time to good use. Your success in life therefore depends not on how many hours you have available each day but on how you personally choose to use your time. You always have enough time to create an extraordinary life should you choose to.
But I don't have enough time!
Whenever you hear yourself say that you don't have enough time, what you are really saying is that you have 'chosen' to do something else with your time. How you spend your time is your time is entirely your choice. The big question is, 'are you making the choices that will provide you with the maximum amount of health, peace and happiness?'
Where are you wasting time?
If you want to become a master of your time one of the first things you need to do is work out where you are currently wasting time. Are you spending too much time down at the pub or watching TV or doing a job that you hate? If you are then you have to do something about it. Nothing will change unless you do.
Try giving up alcohol for month, selling your TV or volunteering your time to a cause you feel passionate about. You'll soon be amazed at what else is possible for your life!
You can't make time!
It's important to understand that you can't make time, you can't find time and you certainly can't buy time,on the fridge. Time just is as it is.
The issue is never about having enough time, but what you choose to do with your time. There is always enough time to do the things that you want to do. You just have to be to committed to doing them.
* Answers
Question 1 - c) 24 hours
Question 2 - c) 7 days
Question 3 - c) 52 weeks
Copyright Damien Senn 2005. All rights reserved.
Thursday, November 15, 2012
among his 1
Failures Would Be Surprised to Learn That Winners Failed Many More Times by Ed Bagley
Thomas Edison said it and I believe it: "Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up."
There are more losers than winners in the game of life because losers many times are people who tried something with all their effort and failed. Because they failed rather than succeeded, they became reluctant to try again. Thomas Edison was not one of those people.
One of the first lessons athletes are taught in competition is that when you give your full effort and are knocked down, you must get up and try again, and again, and again until you succeed. Once you are successful one time,reset button, you can hone your talents and use your skills to succeed again and again.
One of the critical areas of life where people fail at an amazing rate is in their relationships. Once involved in a relationship, when faced with challenges and hardships, many more people decide to move on to another partner rather than work through the problems and hardships with the partner they have. There are reasons why marriages fail and giving up too soon is one of them.
Thomas Edison is arguably one of the greatest inventors in the history of the world. He is certainly one of the most prolific, holding 1,093 United States patents in his name as well as patents in the United Kingdom, France and Germany.
Edison would be dubbed "The Wizard of Menlo Park" for the impact of his inventions, which included originating the concept and implementation of electric-power generation and distribution to homes, businesses and factories, a crucial development in the modern industrialized world,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots. He would create the first industrial research laboratory in Menlo Park, NJ.
Edison, who was home schooled by his mother, spent only 3 months in formal schooling before his teacher declared him "addled" and unfit for learning. His schoolteacher would go on to no great acclaim. Edison would patent the stock ticker, phonograph, fluoroscope (x-ray machine), and the first commercially practical incandescent light (light bulb) among his 1,093 patents, and form 14 companies (including General Electric,and what you need to do to expand your business., one of the largest publicly traded companies in the world). Edison virtually created the electric industry.
One account claims that Edison and his associates tried 5,000+ different elements before using a lower current electricity, a small carbonized filament and an improved vacuum inside a globe to produce the light bulb, the first reliable, long-lasting source of light that would literally light up the world,you know it..
The business world is littered with entrepreneurs who started and bankrupted 1, 2 and even 3 companies before starting a 4th company and succeeding beyond their wildest dreams. These entrepreneurs got knocked down, got back up, did not repeat their mistakes and moved on.
Thomas Edison also said this: "Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration." Consistent, persistent effort combined with learning from mistakes is a big factor in overcoming failure. To Edison's credit, failure was not a word used in his vocabulary.
As Mark Twain said, Edison "never allowed schooling to interfere with his education."
Copyright 2009 Ed Bagley
Thomas Edison said it and I believe it: "Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up."
There are more losers than winners in the game of life because losers many times are people who tried something with all their effort and failed. Because they failed rather than succeeded, they became reluctant to try again. Thomas Edison was not one of those people.
One of the first lessons athletes are taught in competition is that when you give your full effort and are knocked down, you must get up and try again, and again, and again until you succeed. Once you are successful one time,reset button, you can hone your talents and use your skills to succeed again and again.
One of the critical areas of life where people fail at an amazing rate is in their relationships. Once involved in a relationship, when faced with challenges and hardships, many more people decide to move on to another partner rather than work through the problems and hardships with the partner they have. There are reasons why marriages fail and giving up too soon is one of them.
Thomas Edison is arguably one of the greatest inventors in the history of the world. He is certainly one of the most prolific, holding 1,093 United States patents in his name as well as patents in the United Kingdom, France and Germany.
Edison would be dubbed "The Wizard of Menlo Park" for the impact of his inventions, which included originating the concept and implementation of electric-power generation and distribution to homes, businesses and factories, a crucial development in the modern industrialized world,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots. He would create the first industrial research laboratory in Menlo Park, NJ.
Edison, who was home schooled by his mother, spent only 3 months in formal schooling before his teacher declared him "addled" and unfit for learning. His schoolteacher would go on to no great acclaim. Edison would patent the stock ticker, phonograph, fluoroscope (x-ray machine), and the first commercially practical incandescent light (light bulb) among his 1,093 patents, and form 14 companies (including General Electric,and what you need to do to expand your business., one of the largest publicly traded companies in the world). Edison virtually created the electric industry.
One account claims that Edison and his associates tried 5,000+ different elements before using a lower current electricity, a small carbonized filament and an improved vacuum inside a globe to produce the light bulb, the first reliable, long-lasting source of light that would literally light up the world,you know it..
The business world is littered with entrepreneurs who started and bankrupted 1, 2 and even 3 companies before starting a 4th company and succeeding beyond their wildest dreams. These entrepreneurs got knocked down, got back up, did not repeat their mistakes and moved on.
Thomas Edison also said this: "Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration." Consistent, persistent effort combined with learning from mistakes is a big factor in overcoming failure. To Edison's credit, failure was not a word used in his vocabulary.
As Mark Twain said, Edison "never allowed schooling to interfere with his education."
Copyright 2009 Ed Bagley
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
This is hard to change. People like to say
The Holidays Aren't Stressful. Just Because You're Screwed Up, Don't Blame Christmas by Scott Sheperd Ph.D
As we start to move into the holiday season we will start hearing about how stressful the holidays are. This all comes from our distorted belief that "stress" is somehow "out there" in the world and not a result of our thinking processes. Stress is a word that supposedly reflects a physiological state whereby certain hormones are kicked into the system affecting certain organs. Nowadays stress is this nebulous force out there in the world. We are "under stress" and "coping with stress" and dealing with "stressful jobs" and "stressful holidays."
Stress isn't out there. All that is out there are situations. They might be situations we like or don't like, but whether we have stress happening in us depends on how we think about those situations.
Now I know you've heard this before,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots. There are a lot of writers and speakers who sort of talk this talk that we must be responsible for our lives etc. But when push comes to shove they still talk the talk of victims. "How did that make you feel?" is a favorite question of parents and counselors,divorce was not an option. For many people. It sounds like you're really encouraging the person to talk about his or her feelings. The only problem is that it implies that an event totally controlled your reaction and you are in essence a victim. Wrong.
"He drives me nuts." Same idea. Victim thinking.
I have worked with people in all types of tragic circumstances including people having their children murdered. Some people stay angry and hateful and bitter and they obviously can make a good case for that. Others however choose not to go in that direction. One person told me and a group I was talking to that it finally dawned on him after waking up every day for ten years and hating the person who killed his daughter that she deserved better than that from him. He said that she hadn't lived all those years just for him to hate someone.
Personal Power is about choices. If you don't see the choices you don't see the power,Remember that fear is a natural and inevitable part of this process.
If you are going crazy around the holidays, the odds are you are trying to meet some type of expectations either from others or from yourself. Don't get me wrong. If you start defying those expectations you will get some flack. Count on it. However if you don't make changes you will be a reflection of B.B. King's song, "The Thrill Is Gone."
I guarantee you though, that if you keep blaming the holidays or seeing the holidays as stressful you will be stuck until you die. However if you start to accept some responsibility for your inner life, you will begin to see that the way you think is triggering most of your stress response.
This is hard to change. People like to say, "Easier said than done." Well,there are real feng shui consultants, duh! It is easier said than done. But difficult is not impossible. It's just difficult.
If you are tired of your holidays being a mess, make different choices. The first time you do this your holiday still might not be great, but you will start to feel a certain sense of power coming back. Take back your holidays. Take back your life.
As we start to move into the holiday season we will start hearing about how stressful the holidays are. This all comes from our distorted belief that "stress" is somehow "out there" in the world and not a result of our thinking processes. Stress is a word that supposedly reflects a physiological state whereby certain hormones are kicked into the system affecting certain organs. Nowadays stress is this nebulous force out there in the world. We are "under stress" and "coping with stress" and dealing with "stressful jobs" and "stressful holidays."
Stress isn't out there. All that is out there are situations. They might be situations we like or don't like, but whether we have stress happening in us depends on how we think about those situations.
Now I know you've heard this before,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots. There are a lot of writers and speakers who sort of talk this talk that we must be responsible for our lives etc. But when push comes to shove they still talk the talk of victims. "How did that make you feel?" is a favorite question of parents and counselors,divorce was not an option. For many people. It sounds like you're really encouraging the person to talk about his or her feelings. The only problem is that it implies that an event totally controlled your reaction and you are in essence a victim. Wrong.
"He drives me nuts." Same idea. Victim thinking.
I have worked with people in all types of tragic circumstances including people having their children murdered. Some people stay angry and hateful and bitter and they obviously can make a good case for that. Others however choose not to go in that direction. One person told me and a group I was talking to that it finally dawned on him after waking up every day for ten years and hating the person who killed his daughter that she deserved better than that from him. He said that she hadn't lived all those years just for him to hate someone.
Personal Power is about choices. If you don't see the choices you don't see the power,Remember that fear is a natural and inevitable part of this process.
If you are going crazy around the holidays, the odds are you are trying to meet some type of expectations either from others or from yourself. Don't get me wrong. If you start defying those expectations you will get some flack. Count on it. However if you don't make changes you will be a reflection of B.B. King's song, "The Thrill Is Gone."
I guarantee you though, that if you keep blaming the holidays or seeing the holidays as stressful you will be stuck until you die. However if you start to accept some responsibility for your inner life, you will begin to see that the way you think is triggering most of your stress response.
This is hard to change. People like to say, "Easier said than done." Well,there are real feng shui consultants, duh! It is easier said than done. But difficult is not impossible. It's just difficult.
If you are tired of your holidays being a mess, make different choices. The first time you do this your holiday still might not be great, but you will start to feel a certain sense of power coming back. Take back your holidays. Take back your life.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
which can be uncomfortable to the onlooker
Stop Procrastinating And Do It Now by Roseanna Leaton
Are you fed up with making excuses and putting things off from one day to the next, only to find the same jobs waiting for you yet again in the morning? I heard someone saying the other day that excuses are like golf strokes; the fewer the better.
Being a golfer myself, this analogy held immediate appeal for me. In fact, I began to wonder if the sense of frustration which can accumulate might even be similar.
Golf can be an extremely frustrating game; you can play a couple of great shots and then suddenly wham! Out of the blue this strange shot just pops out and you end up taking three more shots just to get to the green and top the hole off by three putting. Now that is really frustrating. And every golfer has had a similar experience at least once.
In these circumstances, it's easy to get frustrated. I wish I had a dollar for every time I have heard a golfer muttering about this sort of thing underneath their breath! But the very act of getting frustrated makes your game a whole lot worse. Good golf thrives upon a calm, relaxed and rhythmic mindset,shortsighted and/or greedy people with vested interests in the exisiting system; Bad golf feeds upon tension and frustration.
Golf teaches you many lessons about life in general. Good feelings in life as a whole also tend to thrive upon a calm and relaxed mindset, whilst bad feelings feed upon frustration,When was the last time you found yourself dreaming "BIG". So why would you persist in procrastinating if you know that it will inevitably lead to frustration?
Chronic procrastinators are not generally the happiest of people. They wear an aura of tension, which can be uncomfortable to the onlooker, let alone for the person who is wrapped inside that particular cloak. Procrastination creates tension and also leads to havoc in both the personal and professional arena. Nothing gets done when it's meant to be done; at best, everything is left to the very last minute, which creates tension for everyone in your environment.
Why procrastinate when you know that this is the result? Some say the cause is laziness, although I would tend to disagree. A lack of confidence often plays a big part in this particular scenario. A fear of the outcome is often enough to stop a person from getting started,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots. A fear of what people might think, of making a fool of yourself might be holding you back. A lack of trust in your own ability may also be evident, if you were to dig a little deeper into the depths of your own mind.
A lack of confidence may lie beneath many a situation where motivation is lacking. But over time procrastination can become so habitual that you are almost unaware of why this frustrating habit became a part of your natural and instinctive behavioral tendencies. Procrastination tends to be habitual.
To stop procrastinating, therefore, one needs to access the part of your mind where habits are stored. The subconscious mind is the part in question. How do you access this part of your mind? Hypnosis is the answer. With hypnosis you access your subconscious mind which makes it possible for you to change habits. You can learn to stop procrastinating with the help of a hypnotherapy download.
Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnotherapy downloads for health,When you work from home, success and well-being.
P.S. Grab yourself a free hypnosis mp3 from my website.
Are you fed up with making excuses and putting things off from one day to the next, only to find the same jobs waiting for you yet again in the morning? I heard someone saying the other day that excuses are like golf strokes; the fewer the better.
Being a golfer myself, this analogy held immediate appeal for me. In fact, I began to wonder if the sense of frustration which can accumulate might even be similar.
Golf can be an extremely frustrating game; you can play a couple of great shots and then suddenly wham! Out of the blue this strange shot just pops out and you end up taking three more shots just to get to the green and top the hole off by three putting. Now that is really frustrating. And every golfer has had a similar experience at least once.
In these circumstances, it's easy to get frustrated. I wish I had a dollar for every time I have heard a golfer muttering about this sort of thing underneath their breath! But the very act of getting frustrated makes your game a whole lot worse. Good golf thrives upon a calm, relaxed and rhythmic mindset,shortsighted and/or greedy people with vested interests in the exisiting system; Bad golf feeds upon tension and frustration.
Golf teaches you many lessons about life in general. Good feelings in life as a whole also tend to thrive upon a calm and relaxed mindset, whilst bad feelings feed upon frustration,When was the last time you found yourself dreaming "BIG". So why would you persist in procrastinating if you know that it will inevitably lead to frustration?
Chronic procrastinators are not generally the happiest of people. They wear an aura of tension, which can be uncomfortable to the onlooker, let alone for the person who is wrapped inside that particular cloak. Procrastination creates tension and also leads to havoc in both the personal and professional arena. Nothing gets done when it's meant to be done; at best, everything is left to the very last minute, which creates tension for everyone in your environment.
Why procrastinate when you know that this is the result? Some say the cause is laziness, although I would tend to disagree. A lack of confidence often plays a big part in this particular scenario. A fear of the outcome is often enough to stop a person from getting started,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots. A fear of what people might think, of making a fool of yourself might be holding you back. A lack of trust in your own ability may also be evident, if you were to dig a little deeper into the depths of your own mind.
A lack of confidence may lie beneath many a situation where motivation is lacking. But over time procrastination can become so habitual that you are almost unaware of why this frustrating habit became a part of your natural and instinctive behavioral tendencies. Procrastination tends to be habitual.
To stop procrastinating, therefore, one needs to access the part of your mind where habits are stored. The subconscious mind is the part in question. How do you access this part of your mind? Hypnosis is the answer. With hypnosis you access your subconscious mind which makes it possible for you to change habits. You can learn to stop procrastinating with the help of a hypnotherapy download.
Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnotherapy downloads for health,When you work from home, success and well-being.
P.S. Grab yourself a free hypnosis mp3 from my website.
Sunday, November 11, 2012
doctors
At Least I Have A Job by Laurie Noepel
Today in a vast country where we strive on independence and capitalism our only statement is, "Hey,Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 22, at least I have a job". So many times in the last six months wherever I went and whatever I did this common phrase was heard. Realizing that there are a lot of people out of work today we easily fall into this rut of gratitude but still something missing.
There are many people I know that will keep doing their profession because they love what they do and it is a lot more than the money. Many of these people I find in this category are the teachers, doctors, and nurses,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots. Although I am sure that there are many more who love what they do. I have a friend who has been a cashier at Walgreen's for fifteen years and exclaims how she loves meeting new people each day and that is satisfying for her. Every person ticks a different way and I think it is absolutely wonderful to have a profession you are passionate about and can't wait to wake up each morning to serve and give of all your talents.
However, with the cost of living and stresses on more than one income to hold it together people need other alternative routes to expand their financial horizon. I think people should keep the day job but always be growing when they are off the time clock per say. There are many ways to make great use of time today and sometimes it means just missing your favorite television show and instead creating an income on the side. It takes discipline and change to create something outside of what you are already doing but in the long run not only you will benefit but your family will as well. I know that is the main reason I want a child because with all my hard work I want someone to reap the benefits and have it a little easier than I did. Although this economy seems to have minimized our opportunities there is still so much out there and in any economic time in history nothing stays the same as we will once again be a wealthy country full of American Dreams.
In conclusion, what part time efforts are you making even if you love your job? Can you grow to a higher place than you are now? Many opportunities are right in front of everyone on the internet,Jamaica".I was elated by that achievement. Maybe we could have more creativeness and better time management so we can turn a tough time in history into a better time in our own personal growth,symbolic writers.
Copyright (c) 2009 Laurie Noepel
Today in a vast country where we strive on independence and capitalism our only statement is, "Hey,Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 22, at least I have a job". So many times in the last six months wherever I went and whatever I did this common phrase was heard. Realizing that there are a lot of people out of work today we easily fall into this rut of gratitude but still something missing.
There are many people I know that will keep doing their profession because they love what they do and it is a lot more than the money. Many of these people I find in this category are the teachers, doctors, and nurses,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots. Although I am sure that there are many more who love what they do. I have a friend who has been a cashier at Walgreen's for fifteen years and exclaims how she loves meeting new people each day and that is satisfying for her. Every person ticks a different way and I think it is absolutely wonderful to have a profession you are passionate about and can't wait to wake up each morning to serve and give of all your talents.
However, with the cost of living and stresses on more than one income to hold it together people need other alternative routes to expand their financial horizon. I think people should keep the day job but always be growing when they are off the time clock per say. There are many ways to make great use of time today and sometimes it means just missing your favorite television show and instead creating an income on the side. It takes discipline and change to create something outside of what you are already doing but in the long run not only you will benefit but your family will as well. I know that is the main reason I want a child because with all my hard work I want someone to reap the benefits and have it a little easier than I did. Although this economy seems to have minimized our opportunities there is still so much out there and in any economic time in history nothing stays the same as we will once again be a wealthy country full of American Dreams.
In conclusion, what part time efforts are you making even if you love your job? Can you grow to a higher place than you are now? Many opportunities are right in front of everyone on the internet,Jamaica".I was elated by that achievement. Maybe we could have more creativeness and better time management so we can turn a tough time in history into a better time in our own personal growth,symbolic writers.
Copyright (c) 2009 Laurie Noepel
Friday, November 9, 2012
what I'm drawn to do
I Can Do It! by Andrea Novakowski
"If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant: if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome,then you're going to have feelings of remorse and a need to mourn what is dead and gone. Ideally." ~Anne Bradstreet
Imagine a soft, cool breeze blowing through your window and gently, gently touching your face. The gauzy curtain flutters. You hear the birds chirping outside. As you breathe in this air, you feel the cool, crispness overtake you. You let go.
You let go of the old thoughts of winter "I can't, there's no time, I should, it's too hard,when you look at yourself in the mirror, it's impossible." As you breathe in the fresh spring air, filling yourself with lightness and energy, you let go of the weight and heaviness of the time before,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots.
As you continue to breathe, consider: What does the fresh air bring to you? What does it allow you to feel or take in? Rather than looking at what others are doing, listening to what they are saying, comparing yourself to them, what's true for you? Breathe in and out. What's starting to bubble up in you? What wants to burst forth?
I've discovered that taking the time and space to breathe and be, opens me to new and fresh ideas. I see solutions to problems; I see possible new ways to accomplish goals and tasks.
As you breathe and connect to Source (inspiration, guidance, knowing), your ideas and dreams can become bigger. You can let go of the small should and step into the joy and lightness of what is possible. Declare:
I CAN DO IT!
I - connected with my inner power
CAN give myself permission and support
DO what is mine to do, what I want to do, what I'm drawn to do
IT the setting of the seeds of what "I" deem to matter
All of this. All of this done with joy and lightness, simplicity and ease.
Coaching Call to Action:
What activity or ritual will connect you to the new spring energy? What will keep this flow coming to you throughout the season? A walk to see the flowers breaking through the dirt? Looking at the trees to see the red budded tips? Opening the door and pausing to listen to the song of the birds,and by letting your imagination soar? What has you know you can do it!
"If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant: if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome,then you're going to have feelings of remorse and a need to mourn what is dead and gone. Ideally." ~Anne Bradstreet
Imagine a soft, cool breeze blowing through your window and gently, gently touching your face. The gauzy curtain flutters. You hear the birds chirping outside. As you breathe in this air, you feel the cool, crispness overtake you. You let go.
You let go of the old thoughts of winter "I can't, there's no time, I should, it's too hard,when you look at yourself in the mirror, it's impossible." As you breathe in the fresh spring air, filling yourself with lightness and energy, you let go of the weight and heaviness of the time before,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots.
As you continue to breathe, consider: What does the fresh air bring to you? What does it allow you to feel or take in? Rather than looking at what others are doing, listening to what they are saying, comparing yourself to them, what's true for you? Breathe in and out. What's starting to bubble up in you? What wants to burst forth?
I've discovered that taking the time and space to breathe and be, opens me to new and fresh ideas. I see solutions to problems; I see possible new ways to accomplish goals and tasks.
As you breathe and connect to Source (inspiration, guidance, knowing), your ideas and dreams can become bigger. You can let go of the small should and step into the joy and lightness of what is possible. Declare:
I CAN DO IT!
I - connected with my inner power
CAN give myself permission and support
DO what is mine to do, what I want to do, what I'm drawn to do
IT the setting of the seeds of what "I" deem to matter
All of this. All of this done with joy and lightness, simplicity and ease.
Coaching Call to Action:
What activity or ritual will connect you to the new spring energy? What will keep this flow coming to you throughout the season? A walk to see the flowers breaking through the dirt? Looking at the trees to see the red budded tips? Opening the door and pausing to listen to the song of the birds,and by letting your imagination soar? What has you know you can do it!
Thursday, November 8, 2012
a symbol of knowledge
Choose The Right Incense Burner
Incense and incense burners come in many different varieties. While incenses vary in essences and aromas, incense burners vary in materials and shapes. Not only the incense you choose will have an effect on your environment, but the incense burner you use will do so as well,Through meditation we will guide you to look within and connect with your mind. The incense you choose might affect your mood and the chi flow around it,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots, while the incense burner might directly affect the feng shui of the space where it is as well as directly affect those who keep it,or maybe is just brings awareness.
Incense burners go hand to hand with incenses since they offer the most comfortable and practical way for you to burn your incenses. Besides, it would add symbolism and harmony to the incense burning activity and to the effect that the essence the incense contains has.
If you wish to have an incense burner which adapts to feng shui principles then you should choose it in order that it helps you adding balance to your house environment. You can do this by choosing it according to the material it is made of or the colors it contains. If you need to add metal to a specific area in order to create harmony, you should look for a metal incense burner. On the other hand, if you need other elements, such as water or fire, you should choose an incense burner painted in colors that represent the wished element.
Another very important factor to consider regarding incense burners are their shapes. You may be able to find incense burners with different forms and imitating different objects. Therefore, you can add symbolism with your incense burner depending on the shape it has and what it represents.
An example of incense burner you may be able to find is a lotus flower shaped one,If you are like most you will think "Heck YES, which would symbolize purity and wisdom as well as it would help you attracting good fortune to your house or any other place where it is used. Lien Hua or the lotus flower is, according to Chinese traditions, a symbol of knowledge, wisdom and purity, and therefore any object representing it would symbolize those attributes as well.
Incense and incense burners come in many different varieties. While incenses vary in essences and aromas, incense burners vary in materials and shapes. Not only the incense you choose will have an effect on your environment, but the incense burner you use will do so as well,Through meditation we will guide you to look within and connect with your mind. The incense you choose might affect your mood and the chi flow around it,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots, while the incense burner might directly affect the feng shui of the space where it is as well as directly affect those who keep it,or maybe is just brings awareness.
Incense burners go hand to hand with incenses since they offer the most comfortable and practical way for you to burn your incenses. Besides, it would add symbolism and harmony to the incense burning activity and to the effect that the essence the incense contains has.
If you wish to have an incense burner which adapts to feng shui principles then you should choose it in order that it helps you adding balance to your house environment. You can do this by choosing it according to the material it is made of or the colors it contains. If you need to add metal to a specific area in order to create harmony, you should look for a metal incense burner. On the other hand, if you need other elements, such as water or fire, you should choose an incense burner painted in colors that represent the wished element.
Another very important factor to consider regarding incense burners are their shapes. You may be able to find incense burners with different forms and imitating different objects. Therefore, you can add symbolism with your incense burner depending on the shape it has and what it represents.
An example of incense burner you may be able to find is a lotus flower shaped one,If you are like most you will think "Heck YES, which would symbolize purity and wisdom as well as it would help you attracting good fortune to your house or any other place where it is used. Lien Hua or the lotus flower is, according to Chinese traditions, a symbol of knowledge, wisdom and purity, and therefore any object representing it would symbolize those attributes as well.
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
To help a friend out of a bad mood
Mind Tricks
Many mind tricks are more than just tricks. They are creative techniques for tapping into the power of your mind. They entertain, but they also have more practical. A good example is the "pupil trick."
Look in the mirror and watch your eyes as you vividly imagine something pleasurable. It can be a beautiful scene, your favorite naked body, or anything else that will create desire in you. You'll notice your pupils getting larger almost immediately. If you practice a bit, you can make your pupils instantly larger at will.
Pupils enlarge when you are aroused, interested and receptive. When you are with someone and your pupils dilate,Enjoy the money you make, the person you are talking to subconsciously senses your interest in them or what they are saying, and they like that. This makes it easier for them to like you, and to listen to what you suggest. You don't have to be a salesman to take advantage of this. Once you learn to control your pupil size, why not try this subliminal mind trick?
A Mental Math Trick
As a young boy in school, I didn't "show my work" in math class. In my figuring, 97 x 16 became 100 x 16 (1600) minus 3 x 16 (48). It was easier that way, and almost automatic, so I would just write down 1552 even though I couldn't explain very well how I arrived at the answer. For my teachers this was a problem, but many years later such math shortcuts were sold in seminars and books,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots. You might want to learn a few of your own.
A Memory Trick
Suppose you need to remember the following list: Soap, milk, honey, fork, and flowers. Just start a vivid story in your imagination, adding items to it as you go: At the sink, reach for the SOAP, and find the soap dish full of MILK. Wash your hands with that, and then comb HONEY into your hair with a FORK. Finally, pick up a bouquet of FLOWERS and smile at the mirror. Repeat each item while mentally reviewing your "movie," and you'll remember all five things, even the next day.
Mind Tricks For Motivation
To get yourself motivated, talk about your plans. This is a simple, yet powerful mind trick. By the time I tell my wife about the newsletter I'm going to write, I'm out of my slump and back at the keyboard. You can quickly change your state of mind,of course. This is crazy I thought, but not by willing it to change. That would be like trying to ride a bicycle without pedaling. There is a mechanical aspect to the mind that can't be ignored. That is what these techniques tap into.
To help a friend out of a bad mood, get them to talk. More specifically, get your friend to explain something to you that they are passionate about. The process literally will change the chemicals in their brain, and so change their state of mind. When you find the topics that work best, remember them for future use.
A Reading Trick
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A subscriber to my Brainpower Newsletter sent me that one. A more useful speed-reading "trick," is to read just the first and last sentences of paragraphs. That's where the most useful information usually is, as in the last sentence of this paragraph: Mind power comes from practice, not desire,That's why we use tailor made metaphors, so why not try these mind tricks?
Many mind tricks are more than just tricks. They are creative techniques for tapping into the power of your mind. They entertain, but they also have more practical. A good example is the "pupil trick."
Look in the mirror and watch your eyes as you vividly imagine something pleasurable. It can be a beautiful scene, your favorite naked body, or anything else that will create desire in you. You'll notice your pupils getting larger almost immediately. If you practice a bit, you can make your pupils instantly larger at will.
Pupils enlarge when you are aroused, interested and receptive. When you are with someone and your pupils dilate,Enjoy the money you make, the person you are talking to subconsciously senses your interest in them or what they are saying, and they like that. This makes it easier for them to like you, and to listen to what you suggest. You don't have to be a salesman to take advantage of this. Once you learn to control your pupil size, why not try this subliminal mind trick?
A Mental Math Trick
As a young boy in school, I didn't "show my work" in math class. In my figuring, 97 x 16 became 100 x 16 (1600) minus 3 x 16 (48). It was easier that way, and almost automatic, so I would just write down 1552 even though I couldn't explain very well how I arrived at the answer. For my teachers this was a problem, but many years later such math shortcuts were sold in seminars and books,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots. You might want to learn a few of your own.
A Memory Trick
Suppose you need to remember the following list: Soap, milk, honey, fork, and flowers. Just start a vivid story in your imagination, adding items to it as you go: At the sink, reach for the SOAP, and find the soap dish full of MILK. Wash your hands with that, and then comb HONEY into your hair with a FORK. Finally, pick up a bouquet of FLOWERS and smile at the mirror. Repeat each item while mentally reviewing your "movie," and you'll remember all five things, even the next day.
Mind Tricks For Motivation
To get yourself motivated, talk about your plans. This is a simple, yet powerful mind trick. By the time I tell my wife about the newsletter I'm going to write, I'm out of my slump and back at the keyboard. You can quickly change your state of mind,of course. This is crazy I thought, but not by willing it to change. That would be like trying to ride a bicycle without pedaling. There is a mechanical aspect to the mind that can't be ignored. That is what these techniques tap into.
To help a friend out of a bad mood, get them to talk. More specifically, get your friend to explain something to you that they are passionate about. The process literally will change the chemicals in their brain, and so change their state of mind. When you find the topics that work best, remember them for future use.
A Reading Trick
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A subscriber to my Brainpower Newsletter sent me that one. A more useful speed-reading "trick," is to read just the first and last sentences of paragraphs. That's where the most useful information usually is, as in the last sentence of this paragraph: Mind power comes from practice, not desire,That's why we use tailor made metaphors, so why not try these mind tricks?
Monday, November 5, 2012
How to Make a Living Doing What You Love by Stacey Curnow
Crush It! How to Make a Living Doing What You Love by Stacey Curnow
Sometimes when I ask my clients "If money weren't an issue, what would you do with your time?" they answer that they don't know or that they would sit on a beach all day. I think those responses are understandable, but I'm also pretty sure that they do know, and it's not sitting on a beach all day.
What I'm really getting at is if they didn't have to make a living and support their family, what would they want to do with the rest of their lives? Or put even another way,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots, is there anything they are doing right now that absorbs their attention to the point that they lose track of time and forget to eat?
We all have the potential to feel that engaged and excited about something and it is my belief that we are happiest when we are devoting a good bit of our time doing that thing. And I further believe that you can even make a living and support your family while doing it!
I certainly am not saying that you should quit your day job right this moment, but you can lay the groundwork to make that a feasible option sooner rather than later. (If you know me, you know that I'm not a big fan of the "I'll get to do what I really want when I retire." plan.)
So first things first,new skills to grasp and new knowledge to master, do you know what you're passionate about? If you don't, I'll ask you to be a bit of a time-traveling detective. What did you love doing between the ages of 9-11? Studies show that your childhood interests and talents hold clues to what would give your life its greatest sense of meaning and satisfaction today.
If you can't remember, what ambitions did you set aside when you were younger because "you couldn't make a living doing that"? What chance meetings stand out for you? What are some of the things that others have said about you that have stuck with you over the years?
Now imagine yourself saying "I feel excited (or strong, or purposeful) when I am" Remember you are talking about something you are doing, not something that is happening to you.
There really are so many possibilities for finding meaningful, satisfying and lucrative work, but we often don't see them because we have been conditioned to believe that life is made up of doing a lot of things we don't want to do and working for money is chief among them. So the really important thing is to decide that you want to do the thing and stop worrying about if it is practical.
I recently read Gary Vaynerchuk's book "Crush It!" He has an interesting test for determining if you can "monetize" your passion. It consists of one question: Can you think of at least fifty blog topics that you're excited to write about it? He feels that number of posts is the minimum you'll need to give yourself enough time to get a feel for the situation.
He goes on to say that if you have indentified your true passion, you'll find five hundred things to say about it. And people will want to hear and pay to hear what you have to say about it.
He contends that when you are doing what you truly love, even the smallest niche (he points to a woman who blogs about knitting and sells hand-dyed yarn) can sustain a nice forty-to-seventy-five thousand dollar-a-year business. Since that is what most of us make at our can't-wait-till-Friday jobs, it sounds like a good deal to me!
Napoleon Rich, who wrote the classic Think and Grow Rich, offered a great series of steps to help you achieve your dreams and I've adapted them to include here.
1. Have a definite purpose, backed by a definite desire.
2. Create a definite plan expressed by definite action.
3. If you experience any negative or discouraging messages from others, try to understand that your desire is creating some discomfort for them probably because they wish they were acting as boldly on their desires and do not take it personally,especially for this gentleman -- brought him a temporary escape from his painful.
4. Have a friendly alliance with one or more persons who will encourage you to follow through with both plan and purpose.
One of my clients works in a foreign country and found lucrative work in translating documents, but she doesn't love it. She has a background in teaching and really loves young children, but she also wants a lot of flexibility in her schedule to be with her young son.
She recently decided to create a multi-cultural language program using songs, stories and games and proposed it to schools in her small town. She is delighted by the prospect of doing this work,1. Be specific, and she will further benefit by setting her own hours and rates. I also encouraged her to create an "information product" from her program that could be sold to a mass market. She will clearly crush it. How about you?
Sometimes when I ask my clients "If money weren't an issue, what would you do with your time?" they answer that they don't know or that they would sit on a beach all day. I think those responses are understandable, but I'm also pretty sure that they do know, and it's not sitting on a beach all day.
What I'm really getting at is if they didn't have to make a living and support their family, what would they want to do with the rest of their lives? Or put even another way,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots, is there anything they are doing right now that absorbs their attention to the point that they lose track of time and forget to eat?
We all have the potential to feel that engaged and excited about something and it is my belief that we are happiest when we are devoting a good bit of our time doing that thing. And I further believe that you can even make a living and support your family while doing it!
I certainly am not saying that you should quit your day job right this moment, but you can lay the groundwork to make that a feasible option sooner rather than later. (If you know me, you know that I'm not a big fan of the "I'll get to do what I really want when I retire." plan.)
So first things first,new skills to grasp and new knowledge to master, do you know what you're passionate about? If you don't, I'll ask you to be a bit of a time-traveling detective. What did you love doing between the ages of 9-11? Studies show that your childhood interests and talents hold clues to what would give your life its greatest sense of meaning and satisfaction today.
If you can't remember, what ambitions did you set aside when you were younger because "you couldn't make a living doing that"? What chance meetings stand out for you? What are some of the things that others have said about you that have stuck with you over the years?
Now imagine yourself saying "I feel excited (or strong, or purposeful) when I am" Remember you are talking about something you are doing, not something that is happening to you.
There really are so many possibilities for finding meaningful, satisfying and lucrative work, but we often don't see them because we have been conditioned to believe that life is made up of doing a lot of things we don't want to do and working for money is chief among them. So the really important thing is to decide that you want to do the thing and stop worrying about if it is practical.
I recently read Gary Vaynerchuk's book "Crush It!" He has an interesting test for determining if you can "monetize" your passion. It consists of one question: Can you think of at least fifty blog topics that you're excited to write about it? He feels that number of posts is the minimum you'll need to give yourself enough time to get a feel for the situation.
He goes on to say that if you have indentified your true passion, you'll find five hundred things to say about it. And people will want to hear and pay to hear what you have to say about it.
He contends that when you are doing what you truly love, even the smallest niche (he points to a woman who blogs about knitting and sells hand-dyed yarn) can sustain a nice forty-to-seventy-five thousand dollar-a-year business. Since that is what most of us make at our can't-wait-till-Friday jobs, it sounds like a good deal to me!
Napoleon Rich, who wrote the classic Think and Grow Rich, offered a great series of steps to help you achieve your dreams and I've adapted them to include here.
1. Have a definite purpose, backed by a definite desire.
2. Create a definite plan expressed by definite action.
3. If you experience any negative or discouraging messages from others, try to understand that your desire is creating some discomfort for them probably because they wish they were acting as boldly on their desires and do not take it personally,especially for this gentleman -- brought him a temporary escape from his painful.
4. Have a friendly alliance with one or more persons who will encourage you to follow through with both plan and purpose.
One of my clients works in a foreign country and found lucrative work in translating documents, but she doesn't love it. She has a background in teaching and really loves young children, but she also wants a lot of flexibility in her schedule to be with her young son.
She recently decided to create a multi-cultural language program using songs, stories and games and proposed it to schools in her small town. She is delighted by the prospect of doing this work,1. Be specific, and she will further benefit by setting her own hours and rates. I also encouraged her to create an "information product" from her program that could be sold to a mass market. She will clearly crush it. How about you?
Friday, November 2, 2012
In general
What To Do When You Don’t Like The Sound Of Your Speaking Voice by Susan Berkely,As she approaches the lady
Do you remember the first time you heard yourself on tape, on an answering machine or voice mail? You may have been shocked and thought: "Do I really sound like THAT?"
As you start to become aware of your voice you may feel it is:
- "Letting you down badly"
- "Getting worse"
- "Embarrassing you" and so on.
Actually, these reactions are very common. Here's why.
We tend to hold an idealized image of ourselves. But when something-- like a video camera or tape recorder-- shows us we are not as we thought, we flip to the opposite extreme and put ourselves down with a vengeance.
Learning or improving a skill requires that we first accept seeing ourselves objectively in order to grow or change. Yet many people find it hard to be objective and realistic, especially when it comes to something as personal as the sound of their own voice.
BE CAREFUL! While your voice may need improving, it's probably not as bad as you think. And the things you think are problems may not be problems at all,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots.
Take nasality, for instance.
In my workshops and seminars,their behaviors and their attitudes. They must be led by motivating and inspiring leaders., many people complain they sound nasal. Yet no one else in the room agrees with their self-assessment. Their voice sounds nasal to them because they are hearing it from inside their head where it is distorted by the bones of their skull.
Once they become aware of this phenomenon and realize they don't sound as bad as they thought, they feel less inhibited and communication becomes easier and more fun.
In general, we are neither as wonderful as we think nor as terrible as we imagine. In voice development and in life, you need the objective and supportive feedback of others,What if. This feedback will keep you from becoming depressed about imagined shortcomings that don't exist, and keep you from making a fool of yourself because you are overly confident about a quality or skill-set that still needs work.
So if you are embarking on a voice improvement plan and are feeling a little disappointed, take heart! It's probably a good sign. Its shows you are at least open to looking at and working with your weak points. And this is something the clueless and incompetent know-it-all will never do.
Do you remember the first time you heard yourself on tape, on an answering machine or voice mail? You may have been shocked and thought: "Do I really sound like THAT?"
As you start to become aware of your voice you may feel it is:
- "Letting you down badly"
- "Getting worse"
- "Embarrassing you" and so on.
Actually, these reactions are very common. Here's why.
We tend to hold an idealized image of ourselves. But when something-- like a video camera or tape recorder-- shows us we are not as we thought, we flip to the opposite extreme and put ourselves down with a vengeance.
Learning or improving a skill requires that we first accept seeing ourselves objectively in order to grow or change. Yet many people find it hard to be objective and realistic, especially when it comes to something as personal as the sound of their own voice.
BE CAREFUL! While your voice may need improving, it's probably not as bad as you think. And the things you think are problems may not be problems at all,5825 Ugg Classic Short Chocolate Boots.
Take nasality, for instance.
In my workshops and seminars,their behaviors and their attitudes. They must be led by motivating and inspiring leaders., many people complain they sound nasal. Yet no one else in the room agrees with their self-assessment. Their voice sounds nasal to them because they are hearing it from inside their head where it is distorted by the bones of their skull.
Once they become aware of this phenomenon and realize they don't sound as bad as they thought, they feel less inhibited and communication becomes easier and more fun.
In general, we are neither as wonderful as we think nor as terrible as we imagine. In voice development and in life, you need the objective and supportive feedback of others,What if. This feedback will keep you from becoming depressed about imagined shortcomings that don't exist, and keep you from making a fool of yourself because you are overly confident about a quality or skill-set that still needs work.
So if you are embarking on a voice improvement plan and are feeling a little disappointed, take heart! It's probably a good sign. Its shows you are at least open to looking at and working with your weak points. And this is something the clueless and incompetent know-it-all will never do.
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